Mother’s Day is May 13, 2017.
Mother’s Day in upon us and many of us spend a great deal of time thinking about what to buy or say to best honor our mothers. For me, I also think about how to best celebrate the work of women who aren’t mothers by birth. I think about those amazing woman who choose not to have children of their own. Sometimes I find it really hard to celebrate the joys of motherhood when I know so many women who would be awesome moms, but haven’t had this incredible privilege for personal reasons out of their control.
So today, in an effort to celebrate, I want to recognize any woman who has ever loved a child. Whether its a child of her own, a child through foster care or adoption, a child related by family, a child in your church, work, or across the world, it counts. If you have ever loved a child, this Mother’s Day post is for you.
Children are innocent, beautiful little creatures and it is our job to nurture, love, and teach them how to be responsible humans. No, we are not the only responsible party, but as women, we come at things from a different vantage point. We make sure that their basic needs are met and we try to find way to make their lives rich.
For my children, it isn’t usually the big things that make them really happy. It’s the $1 toy they pick up at a local yard sale that makes them happy. They love the play dates at the local park that don’t cost a thing. When they go to dance, soccer, karate, and summer camp they thank me for letting them go. It’s the birthday parties and bedtime stories. It’s boo boo kisses and special events that they tuck safely in their hearts and revisit in the days to come.
Why do we, mothers and other women, do all of this for the littles in our lives? We do these things because we love big. We do this because our children matter. Whether it is because our mothers or role models did these things for us or because we want to give our children better than we were given, the love we share with future generations is priceless. It is a gift that will keep on giving.
Unfortunately, we live in a day and age where women are some of the most highly criticized people on the planet. Sometimes moms find themselves spending more time justifying their parenting skills more than they should have to. Here is the good news! We don’t all have to do things the same way for them to be right. Instead of judging one another, we need to support each other. The reality is that we all have the same goal in mind and I believe we all want to give the children in our lives two things. We want them to know the beauty of good health and true happiness. If my children forget everything else, I hope they remember that I only wanted the best for them.
With all of that said, keep this in mind. You are doing a great job at the hard work of being a mom or role model for the children in your life. You are enough. You are taking care of them and you are making memories. Children don’t need amazing things because they have an amazing you!
So celebrate this Mother’s Day! Celebrate amazing moms! Do a dance for awesome grandmas! Hug some incredible aunts and any other women who care about kids and contributes to the goodness of their lives! More than anything else though, celebrate the beauty of unconditional love.